“Dear Sunnie I love my partner so much! We have great conversation but when ever the connection gets physical she pulls away. What do I do?” -Hopeful in Atlanta

Connection and Attunement go hand in hand

Our sexual experiences with our partners can be very complicated at times. When approaching your partner about your sex life together always remember that kindness and compassion are paramount. Further, sex isn’t simple for most folx. If you find yourself trying to oversimplify the obstacles to your sexual connection with your partner, pause. In order for you both to feel a sense of agency and worth their needs to be space for you both to show up very differently and interdependently.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your story can evolve together. Remember to check in with your body and heart before approaching this conversation with your partner. Ask yourself are there any ways I need to attend to myself before I approach my partner about my longings?

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