Dear Sunnie, from hopeful in Atlanta

Written By Sunnie Townsend (They/Them)

“Dear Sunnie I love my partner so much! We have great conversation but when ever the connection gets physical she pulls away. What do I do?” -Hopeful in Atlanta

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Connection and Attunement go hand in hand

Our sexual experiences with our partners can be very complicated at times. When approaching your partner about your sex life together always remember that kindness and compassion are paramount. Further, sex isn’t simple for most folx. If you find yourself trying to oversimplify the obstacles to your sexual connection with your partner, pause. In order for you both to feel a sense of agency and worth their needs to be space for you both to show up very differently and interdependently.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your story can evolve together. Remember to check in with your body and heart before approaching this conversation with your partner. Ask yourself are there any ways I need to attend to myself before I approach my partner about my longings?

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Sunnie Townsend (They/Them)

Sunnie Townsend is an abolitionist practitioner who provides trauma informed care for Queer and Trans folx who have survived trauma around their gender, sexuality, and or religion. As an experiential educator and wilderness instructor Sunnie walked through the wilderness of intimate and precious parts of their students lives. Sunnie was a Master Educator for 5 years in the Wind River Range of Wyoming & North Rim of the Grand Canyon. Sunnie moved to Seattle to learn more about Trauma. As an experiential educator they witnessed deep trauma their students stories as well as Sunnie’s own life. They received their Masters in Psychology and Theology & Culture and wanted to work with folx who have survived religious trauma. Sunnie believes in the power of becoming oneself through generative safety, belonging, and dignity. They work with folx who want to transition from feeling stuck to living. Sunnie is a trauma specialist and intimacy consultant. They currently work coast to coast with clients.

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