“Giving and Receiving

a consensual Flow:

Sex and Money

with Leo and Sunnie!”

Join the waiting list for this live virtual training

        August 2nd , 5-7pm PST Live Virtual Zoom Session

September 13th 4-7pm Live in person in LA

In this two-part experience, participants will explore:

• The parallels between financial reciprocity and physical intimacy, including how trauma shapes our capacity to ask, receive, soften, trust, spend, touch, rest, and desire

• How people often conflate “giving” with doing labor and “receiving” with passivity, indebtedness, or loss of control

• The four quadrants of consensual giving and receiving:

  • Giving for others

  • Giving for yourself

  • Receiving for others

  • Receiving for yourself
    and how these dynamics emerge in both erotic and financial relationships

• The shadow sides of giving and receiving, including overgiving, people pleasing, love bombing, transactional care, martyrdom, freeloading, scarcity panic, and covert obligation

• How receiving touch, pleasure, care, money, gifts, support, or attention can feel unexpectedly vulnerable for trauma survivors

• Rebuilding embodied consent practices around:

  • asking

  • offering

  • negotiating

  • declining

  • changing your mind

  • and noticing authentic desire rather than conditioned compliance

• Understanding glimmers, triggers, shutdown, arousal, avoidance, and nervous system responses as forms of body communication rather than personal failure

• How PTSD, CPTSD, religious trauma, purity culture, systemic oppression, and relational harm shape erotic expression, financial behavior, and attachment patterns

• Trauma-attuned consent as an embodied process of co-creating agreements around desires, limits, risks, pleasure, resources, and care

This space is for people who:

• Long to feel safer in their bodies while navigating intimacy, touch, money, or vulnerability

• Notice patterns of overgiving sexually, emotionally, relationally, or financially

• Struggle to receive pleasure, support, rest, generosity, affirmation, or care without guilt

• Want to cultivate clearer boundaries and more embodied yeses and nos

• Are healing from religious trauma, purity culture, queer shame, or relational trauma

• Desire relationships rooted in mutuality rather than extraction, performance, or survival adaptation

This series centers queer, trans, trauma-informed, neurodivergent, and body-honoring approaches to healing and relational practice. We believe consent is not a checklist. It is a living ecosystem of negotiation, imagination, choice, nervous system awareness, accountability, and care.